Wednesday, July 09, 2008

Alex's Big Arrival!

I'm home! And I'm still on painkillers so I apologize in advance if I don't make a lot of sense...Let's go back to Saturday and I'll fill you in on the story of our new addition.

I had a few contractions overnight on Friday, which I thought was odd, but I slept better than I had in weeks. I told Matt Saturday morning that I felt "different" but I thought it was because I'd slept late and so hard. We took Ben to the park and let him run off some energy outside and when we were catching a taxi home I had a pretty strong contraction. I realized I'd already had 5 that morning (6 in a day warranted a visit to the doctor) so I ended up getting out at the hospital while Matt took Ben home for his nap. I was immediately taken to the labor ward and put on monitors, all before they even asked my name, and it was quickly apparent that the contractions were coming steadily. Matt came back soon with my admission paperwork (a huge packet of papers I'd carried around 24 hours a day, except of course for that morning) and the doctor arrived soon afterward. She saw that the contractions were about 8 minutes apart and decided it was time to have a baby. All along she has been very concerned about the fact that I had a vertical uterine incision for Ben's delivery and she did not want me to be in labor for any amount of time in case it began to rupture. Plus, I was officially 36 weeks and 3 days so the outlook was very good for the baby.


Matt and I had that old familiar feeling of panic when a doctor announces that we're having a c-section very soon, but we had to remind ourselves that it was okay this time! We could be excited this time around because we knew the baby was much bigger and better prepared to face the outside world. I did ask if I could take a shower since I was really lazy that morning and didn't clean up before going to the park, but the OR and the anesthesiologist were both free and we had to get going so there was no time. Everything happened very quickly, but not with the urgency or tension we experienced with Ben's birth.

I was prepped and taken to the OR where the anesthesiologist started my IV and epidural. I had a spinal last time (one huge shot straight into the spine...very scary) and I never even felt him insert the catheter for the epidural so I'm thinking that's definitely the way to go! I felt a lot more sensation during the c-section but no pain. Matt came in and the doctor got started. This felt like a much quicker procedure, maybe because I wasn't stressed and vomiting like last time, but also because I was alert and hadn't been loaded up with nasty medications. The doctor pulled out little Alexander Lee and he started crying like a healthy little baby. After the neonatologist had cleaned him up a little I was able to hold him and look into my precious baby's face for a few moments before he was taken to the NICU for observation, since he was considered slightly premature. Those were some of the sweetest minutes of my life! Alex was just perfect. He came out at 6lbs 10oz and 22 inches long. He is what we would have called a "fat baby" in the NICU, back when we were enviously looking at all the chubby babies that came and went while Ben was working so hard to gain an ounce here and there.

Matt went with Alex to the NICU while they finished patching me up and sent me to recovery. I think it was apparent pretty quickly that Alex's lungs were still premature and he was started on some oxygen, then later placed on CPAP to give him both oxygen and pressure. We were disappointed but not too surprised since white male babies are the slowest to develop and the lungs are the last of the major organs to function. It was really nice this time around to be in the same hospital so I could get updates from the doctor while I was still confined to bed and Matt didn't have to drive 40 miles to take care of his wife and his baby! On Sunday morning I was able to get out of bed and go visit Alex down the hall and get a better look at him. He looks NOTHING like any of us yet, especially Ben. His little face is round and chubby and he has really dark hair on his head. Right now his eyes are brownish-bluish, so they could still go either way.

By Sunday night, I was getting depressed about having a baby in the NICU again, I think more from the deja vu than what Alex was actually going through. He hated the prongs from the CPAP in his nose, of course, and was crying and wiggling around to get them out so it was hard to see this little newborn already having to suffer through something uncomfortable. But he was already infinitely better off than Ben so we knew that his discomfort would be quick and his progress (hopefully) in hours instead of days or weeks. That has definitely proven to be true! Alex got off CPAP last night and graduated into an oxygen hood, and by this morning didn't even need that. Today he is breathing freely and resting very comfortably, which is ironic because he is officially full-term as of today. I guess he was really going by the calendar! I was released this morning so I got to come home and rest a bit before going back to visit Alex this afternoon.

Today was also a memorable day because both Matt and I got to hold Alex for the first time. I got to hold him first and give him a chance to nurse, but we got to the hospital a little later than we'd planned and he had spent quite a bit of energy letting the nurses know he was hungry and promptly fell asleep after a few swallows. Hopefully if we can time things better and catch him when he's alert and just getting hungry we'll have more success because he doesn't seem to have any trouble with sucking and swallowing. Matt and I still enjoyed seeing him sleeping peacefully and looking like a happy, healthy little baby.

Alex was showing some signs of mild jaundice today so he'll be tanning under the phototherapy light overnight. Once that is corrected and he is taking all of his feeds by mouth, we'll get to bring our little guy home! The doctor is estimating Sunday or Monday right now. Here are some pictures from this afternoon. We forgot the camera as we ran out the door to meet the hungry boy at the hospital so we had to use my phone instead.





I am well on the road to recovery myself. This c-section has been much less painful than my first, probably for many reasons like not being an emergency, not 3 1/2 months early, not being stapled shut, and just having experienced it previously. Also, they gave me a terrific little girdle to velcro around my belly and hold everything in tight so I'm much more comfortable walking or turning over in bed. I can't believe I didn't get one of these things in the states because it's made a huge difference. The doctor told me I didn't have to wear it all the time but I haven't taken it off for a minute except to shower because it's so much help. I'm still not looking forward to having to travel to the hospital and back (especially when I have to take a taxi) but it's only about a 10-minute ride from our place so that's not bad.

Even though we didn't make it to full-term like we'd hoped, Matt and I feel incredibly blessed to have made it so far with Alex this time. Just knowing everything Ben went through and all of the risks and difficulties he faced, it was scary getting pregnant again and knowing we might put another baby through the same thing. Each passing day and week helped us breathe a little easier and think just a little more about a big, healthy baby. Honestly, I was amazed things went as smoothly as they did but we did work very hard to minimize all the risks and give this little guy every opportunity to fully cook. And then all we could do was pray and leave things in God's hands because it was ultimately HIS decision on when we'd meet Alex and we're so thankful that it was at 36 weeks this time instead of 24! While I was in the recovery room by myself, all I could think was "thank you Lord for getting us this far!".

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Family Update: Tuesday 8-July

Good News: Laura will be discharged tomorrow and Alex is now off nasal c-pap. Alex is breathing under the oxygen enriched hood. His lungs' abilities to transfer oxygen to the blood stream and remove carbon dioxide have well improved. His breathing is less labored and less frequent which are all positives. Assuming his blood gas levels remain as is or improve, the doctors may try normal feedings (bottle or the boobs) tomorrow. This means tomorrow Laura may have an opportunity to hold Alex for the 1st time since delivery....I know she can't wait! Our family appreciates all the kind messages, calls, gifts, and prayers received. God Bless.

Monday, July 07, 2008

It's a Boy


Alexander Lee Kirkham was born Saturday July 5th 3:37pm Singapore time (2:37am Houston). Weight = 6.63 lbs, length = 51 cm. Laura and Alex are doing well. Laura will be discharged Tuesday or Wednesday and we think Alex will be discharged in 7-10 days. Alex's lungs are slightly immature (c-section was scheduled for July 16th). He is currently in the NICU on C-pap with 30% oxygen to help keep his airways open. The doctors have been pleased with his breathing in the past 48 hours ( he required a little more oxygen last night but is now back to 30%). He is taking his feeds well and shows good signs of removing the moisture from his lungs. Ben saw his brother twice and certainly understands things have changed.

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Big Boy!

I just got back from my visit with the doctor and we figured out why I've "blossomed" so much over the past couple of weeks - the baby is already about 7lbs 4oz! And still a month away from his true due date!! There are definitely no worries about delivering him two weeks early anymore, or even sooner than that if he decides, because he's a very healthy size already. That's already 4 times bigger than Ben's birth weight. What a blessing!!

The doctor was surprised the baby had grown so much recently but I told her my petite little mom had two babies well over 8lbs, so it sounds about right. I want to have the biggest baby in that nursery :)

Monday, June 30, 2008

Mama's Little Helper

Ben was my little shadow today. He saw me on a step stool trying to cover our bathroom door (it's frosted glass and I don't think the baby will appreciate the light coming in when Matt is taking a shower) so he ran and got his own step stool and some tape. I won't say he was a huge help but the intent was much appreciated.
We got to enjoy some time out at the pool as a family this weekend. Ben got some new arm floaties and apparently likes these so hopefully we won't have any more unapproved diving! It will be much nicer for me to relax in the water and not have to be within arms' reach all the time in case Ben decides to go under by himself.

Ben also had a great time playing with my flip flops.

Here's the latest dance video. "Umbrella" and "Jump" seem to be getting boring so we'll have to find some new music for Ben, but the actual jumping is more fun than ever!


So here's a 36-week belly photo...and yes, I know I'm getting huge! This baby must be growing by the minute. I still feel good physically but I'm pretty tired all the time now. I don't seem to want to do anything these days except sleep or lay on the couch in my free time (ie - when Ben is asleep or at school) so I've been pretty lazy about things like taking pictures, keeping up the blog, and answering emails. I doubt things will get much better any time soon because once the little guy comes home with us I can't imagine I'll have much free time! I really can't believe we're getting so close...months ago I wouldn't even let myself imagine that we'd have made it this far in the pregnancy and now we're approaching a normal, healthy (God-willing, of course!) delivery.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

Painting

I bought Ben some finger paints thinking it would be something fun to do at home since he likes it so much at school. What I didn't consider is how enthusiastically he approaches his artwork and the consequences around our own furniture!

Here's the blow by blow. First, impatience...

Next, curiosity....

Examination...

Then some painting...

Re-examination....

And finally, the creative juices really start flowing...

Why limit yourself to the canvas?

And the aftermath....(Ben was happy to take off his pants to paint but refused to take off the shirt. Yet another strong clothing opinion that wasn't worth debating)

And here he is in action....

I managed to corral Ben into the shower without letting him touch too many things in the house and he was happy to play in the water long past when all the paint finally washed off. I have the feeling we'll have to do this again one day, but at the rate Ben goes through paint we'll be out in a week!

A sweet friend of mine here does photography as a hobby and she has taken some belly shots for me. These were from 32 weeks and I thought they were absolutely precious! We're hoping to get some more with the whole family this weekend.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Baby's Getting Big

I had a doctor appointment today and she estimated the baby to be between 5 1/2 to 6 lbs already! That was such great news because we're approaching an decent sized birth weight with hopefully 3 more weeks to grow. At this stage babies typically gain about 1/2 pound per week so he may reach 7 1/2 pounds by his birthday. What really surprised me is how cramped the little guy looked on the ultrasound because suddenly his world is getting pretty compact. No more cute little profile pictures because his hands are pressed right up against his face and his legs are packed in tightly. It's been so much fun getting ultrasounds at every visit and watching him grow and change over the last 8 months.

Ben has finally made his first few trips back to the pool in over a month and is so excited to be swimming again. I'm enjoying the pool as well because I don't feel quite as heavy and slow in the water! I think we'll make the most of it while we still can. But yesterday I did have second thoughts about getting in myself after a little boy (maybe 5 or 6?) ran up to me and asked, "Why are you so fat?" It made me wonder if my swimsuit days are over for a while...

I still don't think Ben has any idea what's about to happen in our house even though we're trying to prepare him with books and a little doll. He recognizes all the baby things that have reappeared and loves to point them out but I don't think he understands that once we bring another kid home it's here to stay! It's going to be quite an adjustment for a little guy who's used to having Mom's undivided attention much of the day. We've been so blessed that Ben has always been such an easy-going, happy boy and hopefully his sweet nature will help him take all the upcoming changes in stride. He's very interested in babies and loves talking to them so I have no doubt Ben will make an excellent big brother.